Goodbye, for Now: The Closing Section of Your Adoption Profile
The closing section of your adoption is your last chance to speak directly with the birth mother, and will be influential in her deciding whether or not she’d like to learn more about you and your family. That means the closing section is possibly the most important section in the entire profile. To make this section personal and heartfelt, we recommend sitting down and reflecting on what exactly is in your heart and how you want to say it. Here are five proven tips that we’ve put together to help you craft your closing section.
Five Things You Should Include in The Closing Section:
Tip #1: Thanking the birth mom for reading your story.
“Thank you so much for taking the time to read our profile. We hope that it has given you a glimpse into our lives and shown you the love that we have to share with a child.”
This simple “Thank You” acknowledges that you are grateful that she has taken the time to sit down and learn about you. Her curiosity and interest has not gone unnoticed, even if she does not end up choosing you.
Tip #2: Your feelings about adoption and appreciation for the birth mom’s bravery.
“We have so much respect for your decision to consider adoption for this child. While we cannot imagine what you are feeling, we believe you are incredibly brave and selfless. We are so excited to open our hearts and our home to a child through adoption, and cannot wait for that day to come.”
It’s important to remember that even if a birth family is perusing adoption profiles, choosing adoption is not a guarantee. Leave things a little open so she feels like she has wiggle room to explore her feelings.
Tip #3: Any promises you’d like to make and how you will talk about adoption.
“Please know that any child that joins our family will be loved abundantly and unconditionally. They will be given every opportunity in life to pursue their dreams and reach for the stars. But most importantly, they will always be reminded of who they are, where they came from and the love that their birth mother has for them.
Getting into “your feels” is important. Show how you feel! But, remember to be genuine.
Tip #4: If you would like an open adoption, or have experience with open adoption, consider bringing that up.
“Open adoption is something we feel very strongly about, as we believe that it is essential to not only the child’s well-being, but yours as well. We imagine that this must be a difficult decision to make and we want you to always feel at peace with your decision to place your child. We are open to staying in contact, keeping you updated and sharing with you all of their important milestones. That being said, we will respect your wishes, whatever they may be.”
Open adoption is now an incredibly common arrangement, but it’s not for everyone. If you’re interested in semi-open adoption or closed adoption, that’s okay too. Your adoption agency or attorney will likely only show your profile to prospective birth parents who have similar views on post-adoption relationships. Your dedicated Parentfinder Writing Coach will help you figure out a way to communicate your needs.
Tip #5: Brief sign off with signature.
“We wish you the best as you journey through the adoption process and decide what is best for you and your child.”
You are welcome to add more to this – if you are religious, you can say that you are praying for her. If you are not religious, you can say that she will be in your thoughts. No matter what, your entire adoption profile should reflect who you are at a genuine level. And, while we recommend that you “sign” your name at the end of the closing section, adoption profiles should never include your last name.
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We hope that this brief explainer has helped spark some ideas for the concluding chapter of your Parentfinder Adoption Profile. If you have signed up with us as a Featured Family or Preferred Member, please feel free to contact your Profile Consultant with any further questions about the closing section.