When talking about your children in an adoption profile, one of the first things that your caseworker will tell you is that it’s best to talk about yourself first. We want the birth mom to fall in love with you before she falls in love with the rest of the family. So in order to make this work, there are a couple of things to keep in mind while writing your adoption profile.
First, if you’re a couple, we want to hear your love story in the first section. Talk about how you met, what made you fall in love and give us some of those “cute” courtship details that are always memorialized at weddings – you know, the awkward first date or chipping teeth on the first kiss!
Example: “Have you ever had one of those first dates where everything felt so perfect, and then suddenly the other person sneezes loudly in the movie and inadvertently spills the popcorn all over you? Maybe you haven’t, but we sure have! That was our first date and the movie was Shrek. Fast forward three years to 2017, and you’ll find Kevin sharing that story with our friends and family the night before our wedding.”
Then you can begin to discuss how you’ve grown your family. What year did you have your first child, how old are they now? What happened after that first (or second) child that made you turn to adoption? Birth mom’s like to know why you are choosing this path instead of going down the more traditional one. It also shows that you REALLY want to be parents to another child, and you’ve exhausted all of your options.
Example: “After getting married in early 2012, we took a year to enjoy our new lives together before deciding to start our family in 2014. Though we anticipated that we may run into complications due to Heather’s medical history, everything went as smoothly as possible and we welcomed our daughter, Sophie, into our lives in December of that year. After Sophie turned one and we had settled into our new home just outside of the city, we decided to try for another child. This time, however, we experienced a late-term miscarriage and the doctors told us that it would be wise to consider other options. We took some time to re-group and in the summer of 2017, decided we would pursue adoption. We have always dreamed of having two children and are so thankful that we can fulfill that dream through adoption.”
We hope this has helped spawn some ideas for your Our Story section! Stay tuned for the second and third installments of this post in the days to come. The next post will talk about how to weave parenting into you individual sections.